Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

home away from home....

Some of my friends and relatives asked me how my life away from my native home land, they usually assume that i'm living a wealthy life...


It's sad to say, the way of thinking of most filipinos when somebody married to a foreigner or working abroad especially in well developed countries like canada or the US, thinks that you are living and sleeping in the bed of roses.... i admit, when i was young i thought that too...but then i always wonder, most filipinos worked in these countries, they usually said "life is a lot better abroad" but then 90% of them always comes home and retire in the philippines. Is it just, the saying goes "there's no place like home"?

For 2 years living here, based on my personal experiences, i agree, life is alot different from the philippines. Honestly, you can have everything you wish here, like nice unpolluted environment, cars, nice house, gadgets, i mean all things that make your life more easier specially in doing household chores. What can you ask for more? Everything is here....BUT of course you will have to work hard to have all these....here, it is a need to own a car because the public transportation such as a bus are just in limited area due to the vastness of the land area, but in the philippines, there's always tricycle or a motorcycle that you can hire wherever you wanna go, well, it is a small country, so, having a car there is a luxury. Here, it is a need to make your house weather proof and have a good heating system or else you will die by hypothermia, hmmmm in my own opinion, i guess, that's why most people have a mortgage, because, weather you like or not, it is a must to have a good house to live. But in pinas, it is a tropical country where its always hot and humid whole year round, some people just live in a nipa hut and they are contented with it, the important is the family are together. I didnt say that filipinos has no mortgage too, but i'm talking to a common filipino, poor and the middle calss family, they have loans too but only a small amount of money. Here, it seems you have a lot of bills to pay monthly, aside from the basic needs such as, electric, natural gas for heater, telephone line, property tax and household insurance, and there's internet provider too where i find it a must here, plus some extra bills from cellphone provider, satellite tv, and garbage fee, and not to mention auto insurance too, usually in 1 household owns 2 to 3 cars here, so its really expensive. But what shock me most is the tax that you have to pay here, there's 3 kinds of tax actually that are added in every goods that you purchased and bills you pay.....one thing i find here too, it seems most people owns a credit card, well, online shopping is popular and the easiest way to pay is through credit card, and of course it's an easy way to loan money too. But in the philippines, the common filipino, the only basic needs are having a good roof that is not leaking no matter if the house is done or not, or if its just a nipa hut, people are contented when they are eating 3 times a day, as long as the family are in good health. Bills that need to pay monthly are just electric and water. Just few people owns a computer, so you can see a lot of internet cafe' in the city where they can have an internet access. We pay our yearly tax too, but thats just it. I had a credit card before when i was there but i rarely use it. Telephone line is not really a must, but you can see that most filipinos owns a prepaid cellphone. Oh, one thing too, labor is really expensive here, you can not hire a nanny or hire somebody to clean your house because you have to pay them hourly and its really expensive, that is why most houses here owns a machines to help you doing household chores. Unlike there, the labor is really cheap that even the middle class family can hire a nanny and a maid so easily, and plus filipinos are very close family, in one household, usually has an extended family, where relatives and parents live in one house, so its a realtive's responsibility too in helping you doing some household chores and specially in taking care of your baby.

In my own opinion, why filipinos still going back to the philippines in spite of tthe good life they have here, well, first, since filipinos are very close family ties, they want their family to enjoy what they have too, its not perfect when your family is far. Second, though you have everything here, nobody will help you, still its hard when no one helps you here and third, it seems you will work until you die, as you need to pay a lot of bills, but when you work hard and earned enough money, its the best way to invest and spend your dollar in the philippines since the value of a dollar in exchange to philippine peso is really high, so when you live there, you live like a king, and whats more inportant, is you will be with your family too....No matter what the status of your life as long the family are together, happy and in good health.....life is a lot better......This is just all my opinion, based on what i saw and experienced too.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

reminising the past...

was super tired today, i cleaned the entire house and did extra things too...if mama and papa knows about it, i'm pretty sure they will be proud of me. Gosh just super super tiring! at times like these, i always remember my life back in the philippines, i grow up in a family were my parents worked in the government and earning fairly decent salaries, over the years, maid come and goes, though we had somebody to take care of the house, us (kids) are well trained to do things around the house mostly every weekends, i remember, when we were in elementary and high school, we had to pull weeds or scrub the floor in exchange for something like if we want a new clothes or accessories, but most especially if we wanted to watch a movie. One thing, my parents made sure that my twin sister and i knows how to cook, infact eventhough we had somebody to cook, we still the one in-charge in the kitchen, it's our responsiblity....excluding washing the dishes though...hmmmm, i guess thats it! the reason why i hate doing the dishes until now is because i'm not used to, just once in a while when maid is on day off, when i was a kid......now, i appreciate more what my parents did to us, we know how to value money, if we want something, we have to earned it first, and now that i'm married, away from my family and relatives, i do everything around the house, no maid or relative to lend a hand, including washing the dishes, shockssss!!! the first time it was hard, it was a shock, i dont deny, i cried, but it was just a short time, with the way my parents trained me, it never really a hard time for me....but i still admit, for almost 2 years now, i still hate washing dishes hehehe.....

i want my son to value money, he has to do errands to earn it.... be responsible, respectful and knows God and be the center of his life....i will do my very best to instill to my son what i have learned from my parents.....

To mama and papa, i love you so much, thank you for the wisdom you've shared, for everything you've done to us, you made us a better person.....I love you!

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Dario and Delia....married atlast!








Monday, September 21, 2009

My twin sister is getting married....

Dario and Delia

Life is good for me and my twin sister i can say..... we're so close together since we're kids, though we argued sometimes, well, just like normal sisters do, but we shared slmost everything and understand each other most of the times, in short we are bestfriend.

Our mom used to say that we are inseparable, that we wont be separated, until i got married and lived with my husband here in canada. But faith really draw us closer together as my twin sister and my hubby's bestfriend are getting married on friday, 25th of this month, and soon she will be here too. What makes it more interesting? well, my husband's bestfriend is currently living downstairs with us in an apartelle house, when delia finally arrives here we all living in one house then. who would have thought that until we got married, i mean my twin sis and me will still be together, not just in one place but in the same household. we just got lucky i guess.....

My husband known his bestfriend dario for 18 years now, treated as brothers actually, and i've known him personally for a year now. Dario is a person who is so loyal to his friends and family, infact when he is your friend he will stand by your side no matter what or he will be a friend if no one will. He is a joker too just like my husband. Knowing him made our lives more happier.

Their relationship started 2 years ago when my hubby invited along dario in his last visit in the philippines. Prior to that, delia and dario chatted for quiet sometimes as friends. They had an instant connection right there and then during their first meeting together. When dario came back home, they constantly communicating together everyday through chatting, he went back last year to visit Delia again, they had a blast together and found a true love in each other's arm. After 2 years, they will finally tie the knot as man and wife in one of the catholic church in our hometown.

My husband and i are so happy with our family, that they end up together as they are perfect for each other, they are really a blessing to us and to those people who know them. Best wishes for them as they enter the journey of married life, its not always a honeymoon stage, there will be bumpy roads along the way but with God, respect and trust with each other, everything will be fine. I love you both! Congatulations!

Oh i can't wait the day my twin sis will be here, our life will be more happier then.......

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Together with my hubby atlast!

My visa just granted, i will be with my husband in Canada very very soon.......we've been waiting and praying for this, and now finally come true, my life will be whole again, i'll be home with my husband atlast, yey! God is always good to us......

i admit, i will really miss my life here, i'm use to running my small business here, my merchandise store and internet cafe....not just that, leaving my family too, and especially my baby raven (my shipoo dog), i feel so empty even though i have everything here....i feel hollow inside being aways from my husband....oh dear God thank you so much, we will be together as husband and wife atlast!.....